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Just asking:
Do you celebrate Valentine’s Day, by surprising your spouse or significant other, with a gift?
The same question might apply to your birthdays.
Sure, a sweet gift is not unwelcome.
But when you’ve been married for more than five decades, to give or not to give is not an issue.
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We’ll go out for dinner on these milestone occasions, but an actual gift is not longer part of our lives.
Some time ago, my wife and I decided that saving on ungifting meant we’d be able to splurge on vacations and trips. But the pandemic put a lid on our travels – we had a pair of one-night staycations in the past three years, one in Hilo, one in Waikiki – so we’re aiming for a trip to New York sometime this year.
If and when that happens, it will be a mutual gift we’ll be happy to spend on.
What say you?
Ditto.